THE SENSORY MADE SIMPLE PODCAST

Transcript

Moms are superheroes.

They're expected to raise the kids, keep the home clean, be a part of the PTA, cook dinner, work, and do it all with a smile on their face.

And it's double that with a sensational child.

But the truth is that often leaves you feeling exhausted, constantly comparing yourself to the other moms on social media, and often short tempered with your family.

And sometimes you lose yourself through that process.

What if we finally drop the facade of being a super mom?

I'd like to introduce you to Melissa Clampitt.

Melissa is a guide for high achieving, yet overwhelmed mamas, women that want to do it all, but are left stressed out, unsure about how much more they can take.

She supports them to drop the super mom facade so they can actually start to enjoy their life.

Live in alignment and experience more ease and joy.

She is also the podcast host of their Reawakened Mom Podcast, Dynamic Speaker, Wife, and Boy Mom at a Three.

And as a mom to three, she gets it.

In this episode, Melissa shares her personal story, getting lost in motherhood, dropping the need to feel perfect and do it all, and five steps to finding yourself again.

We recorded this podcast at the end of my pregnancy, and I can tell you that I was carefully listening to her tips as I start this new journey.

I found it so helpful, and I hope you will too.

Let's get into it.

Hey, Melissa, thank you so much for making the time to be here today.

You were just telling me your afternoon opened up, which is super exciting, but I'm so excited to have you here.

Aw, thank you.

I'm looking forward to this conversation as well.

So thanks for inviting me.

Yeah, so for our audience who might be new to you, can you tell us a little bit about you and who you are?

Yeah, so my name is Melissa Clampitt, and I live in Delaware.

So if anyone doesn't know, like it's on the East Coast of the United States.

And I have three boys.

So I have a 14, a 17, and I have a 31-year-old stepson.

So I have been in the mama field for 20 years now, which is really, really fun and exciting.

I used to be a school teacher.

So I used to teach kids with autism.

So I did that on and off for 10 years, and like a serial entrepreneur, and I have my own podcast and all the things.

Like I am an adventurer at heart.

So yeah, I love to try new things and just like live in joy and fulfillment, right?

And that true alignment.

So if something doesn't feel good to me, like I just can't keep doing it.

That is something I have been focusing on so much in the last year, I would say.

I am like that person who is definitely a people pleaser and doing what other people tell me to do.

And this year has been the whole year of like, does it feel in alignment?

Does it feel good?

Yeah, I always love to share a little bit too.

Like I never thought of myself as like the black sheep of the family.

Like to be honest, I always thought like my brother was because he totally did things opposite of my sister and myself.

But I really feel like I have been true to myself, like even starting in college, because like my sophomore year, I basically told my parents that I was going to go do a semester abroad.

And I don't know where it came from, but I just had this like knowing inside of me that like I wanted to do something different.

I was going to school to be a teacher.

I always knew I wanted to be a teacher, but something came in me that was like, you need to travel, like you need to see things.

So yeah, my sophomore year, I was like, hey, like I'm going to take a semester off and travel, or I'm going to do a semester abroad.

So I ended up going to live in Scotland for my semester.

And then after I graduated college, I actually went back and lived there for six months and taught primary school.

So there's always been something in me that is just like, you need to listen to yourself and it's okay to do things that, you know, others aren't necessarily saying is, this is the way that it's done.

So I don't know if that comes with age or just me like trusting myself and what's right for me.

But I do feel like it starts to get easier as you get older.

I don't know why it does.

Probably is the kid's age too, right?

A little bit easier.

And just, you know, and I know you're pregnant now.

I don't know when this podcast is coming out, if it'll come out after the baby's born, but you really start to listen to yourself and your mother's intuition and what you want your life to look like because you'll get so much advice from everyone else.

This is how you should do it.

This is how I did it.

This is how our family has always done it.

And really it's that staying true to you and what feels good for you and your family and your child and your future children potentially.

So yeah, it's not easy.

I mean, there's definitely struggle and there's definitely times when you're like, am I doing the right thing?

You start questioning, but you're never gonna know unless you try.

So you just keep going at it and keep trying things that feel good.

And it always feels good when it works out the way you thought it was gonna work out.

Yes.

Oh my gosh, when you actually follow that gut intuition and it feels good and it works.

So that definitely ties into your business a little bit.

So how did you go from teaching to what you do now?

Yeah, and that's another story where it was like, I just listened to myself.

My sister had been a school teacher.

My mom thought she was gonna be a school teacher, but she was in banking forever.

She actually just retired this year.

So I always knew from a young age that I wanted to help people.

And so for me, it was either being a teacher or it was being a nurse.

Like when I was growing up, those are the two types of people that helped people.

And so I don't do well with blood.

So I was like, okay, I'm gonna be a teacher.

This is totally what I wanna do.

So I went to school to be a teacher, and I had no idea that I would ever wanna stay at home.

But when I got pregnant with my now 17-year-old, I just had this calling and knowing inside of me that I wanted to be at home.

I wanted to be able to raise him and never miss a thing.

And I hadn't seen that growing up.

Everyone worked.

Everyone always worked.

I didn't really see stay-at-home moms, so I didn't know that that was possible.

And someone had...

And I think I was really open.

At this time, I was really open to other opportunities.

So honestly, network marketing came into my life, and I was looking for a way to be able to create an income from home.

I never was a full-time stay-at-home parent.

I was always working in some capacity.

But that's kind of where the journey started for me, is listening to that knowing and leaving the teaching career and staying at home for seven and a half years, taking care of my kids and being that mom that I wanted to be and being at home.

Some people love it.

Some people don't.

I loved it.

I loved being at home.

I joined a mom's club because I was getting lonely at that point, where I was like, I knew I needed something else.

I knew I needed that support.

I knew that I needed other people that were going through what I was going through, you know, just to kind of share, commiserate, and be like, is this happening for you?

Can you give me some advice?

And, you know, even though I was still working out of the house, I would go and do jewelry parties.

I needed other people that were in that same boat as me.

So really, that's kind of when my passion for working with moms started back then, even though I really never made it into a business until the last couple of years.

That, when I became a mom, and when I left my teaching career, that I always thought I wanted to do, like, that stable job, that stable income.

People thought I was insane.

They were like, you just got your master's degree.

Like, you have a pension.

You have that steady paycheck.

You have health insurance.

So when I decided to leave and really listen to my own calling and my knowing that this is what I wanted to do, that was really, again, me really listening to myself.

And I know that's really hard for people, and some people aren't able to do that.

Like, I had a husband at home that was very supportive, and he wanted me to do that, and he had a good job.

And, you know, I did still work, but it just looked different.

So, you know, that's kind of what I love to work with moms in that area of, like, if someone wants to do something different or somebody is thinking differently but maybe has never seen it or doesn't have that belief in themself or maybe feels a little lost in motherhood because that does start to happen, you know, really thinking about how can I do this?

How can I help support moms?

Because I feel like moms are so under supported sometimes, and we do that ourselves, but I just really just have that heart for moms because I have been a mom for, you know, the past 20 years and just always trying to work through my own journey of what motherhood looks like and feels like in the different stages that my kids are going to, going through.

You'll find this out, you know?

Oh, yes.

So let's talk about that feeling lost because when we were chatting last time, I had kind of told you that I found that so relatable because so many of my friends, my sister, everybody feels so lost, I think, for a little bit.

And maybe we don't need to, but I think, and again, I think I'll probably find this out.

I'm hoping that ahead of time, I'm prepping myself.

But getting lost kind of in motherhood, what is that like?

You had a really interesting story.

Yeah, gosh, I don't even know what story I said to you at this point, but anyway, I'm sure I'll share a good one because I've had so many.

But for me, it really started like when, so my, I was 17 year old now and a 14 year old that are still home.

So I stayed at home and was working at the same time, but work from home, mom, until my youngest was five.

I was very fortunate to have been home that whole time, you know, and during that time I thought, and maybe you have heard this or the people that you've talked to, I had my old stories and programming of what a good, I'm doing like air quotes since you can't see this and since it's a podcast, but what that good mom was, right?

And so it's the good mom does everything for everyone else.

The good mom, she takes care of her kids.

She doesn't do anything for herself.

She sacrifices, she does it all, right?

She does everything, she doesn't complain about it.

She just doesn't, she makes it look great.

And at the time it was like Pinterest, like she'd do all these parties and have everything look good and do all this stuff and do all the things.

Like never, I remember one time my neighbor before, this was like when I was pregnant, went to take, go get her haircut.

And she said she left her child at home.

And I immediately had this thought like, oh my God, I will never leave my children anywhere.

Like I will take them with me everywhere.

Because I really didn't know that I could do that, that I could do something for myself.

And so for me, like that ah-ha of like hitting rock bottom was when it was, I was doing all the things.

So I had my jewelry business.

Like I was volunteering in the classroom.

I was president of the mom's club.

Like I was going to the swim.

I was going to the music.

I was doing all these things.

My husband was training for an Ironman, and I started to be resentful of him for going out and doing these things because I was jealous that I wasn't doing things.

I didn't get to leave the house like for a minute to myself.

Like I was doing everything with my kids because that's what I thought I had to do.

That's what I thought I had to do.

And I had no sense of myself anymore.

I wasn't working out.

I didn't have any joy outside of my kids.

I loved my kids.

I loved being with them.

But I had really forgotten myself and the things that I really enjoyed to do outside of my husband, outside of my kids.

I didn't have anything for me.

And so that's where this kind of journey into that self discovery and trying to help other moms not feel so lost, because I do feel that there is a way that you can help.

If you realize these things, like then maybe it won't be as bad.

You know what I mean?

Like for you.

And also like I want to help moms, like get to moms.

I say get to, but before they're empty nesters, because I do feel like a lot of moms feel like, oh, well, when my kids are out of the house, or when my kids are gone, then I can do things for myself.

And it's like, no.

Like you can be doing things and you should be doing things for yourself right now.

It doesn't make you selfish.

So I'll stop there.

See if you have anything to say, because I could keep going forever.

Oh my gosh.

I just have so many thoughts swirling through my head because yes, so much of the time I see my friends, my sister, so busy and so consumed with all those to do's that comes with raising a child, which is a lot.

And it's always the thought process is always, it's a phase now and later when they're older, when they're this, when they're that, then I'll get back to myself.

Yeah, and that's really how I felt for the longest time.

And then seven and a half years in after being at home with my boys and I wasn't really into jewelry anymore.

My husband wanted to open a restaurant.

So I actually went back to teaching.

And I love sharing that too because it didn't feel like a failure for me.

It didn't feel like, oh my God, you didn't succeed at this thing or whatever.

It's like, no, you're shifting and changing.

Like you're shifting and changing in your career.

You're shifting and changing in your parenting as your kids are aging, aging as you're aging.

I'm 46 right now as we're recording this.

So like we've shifted and changed so many times, but you know, I thought, and this goes into something else that I talk about, is that I was a super mom.

Like that was part of me feeling lost that I felt like I had to do it all.

Like I really thought like, I do not need help if I ask for help, then that shows me sign of weakness.

That shows that I'm not a good mom.

That shows that I don't have it altogether.

That shows that I'm weak.

You know, all of these things were going through my head that was like, I actually have to do it all.

Because if I'm not doing it all, that means I'm failing as a mom.

That means I'm failing as a human.

So I felt I have to do it all.

I can't ask for help.

Like all of these different, I can't do anything for myself because what will people think?

It won't look that good from the outside if I'm asking for help in doing all these things, if I'm not doing it all.

So that was one of the big a-has from me.

And that I really love to just kind of preach that to moms is you actually don't have to do it all, and no one is doing it all.

Even if you are seeing that on social media, it's not true.

They probably have help in the background, or they're struggling.

They're not showing them when they're crying in their closet, like I started to do, because I was like, I don't know how I can keep this facade going, like that I've got it all together, and then I don't need help, and I wasn't asking my husband for help.

And it was like, I didn't know why, I didn't know why I was feeling that way.

And ultimately it was because I really thought that old programming that like, this is how I have to do it, and it has to look perfect, and I can't make any mistakes, and I have to like just give of myself until I have lost myself.

You know, which is really, really hard and asking for help is such a hard thing for us to do, because I think we have those stories of like, what will it mean if I ask for help?

Like, what does that look like?

And if I'm a mom, doesn't that mean I'm supposed to know what to do?

I mean, I was a school teacher for goodness sake, and I have no clue what to do with my kids.

I'm like, what I do teaching has no effect on my kids at all.

It all goes out the window.

So it's just so interesting, right?

And so did you ever see when you were kind of thinking about that, and when you're like, I am doing this whole super mom, I am working as hard as I possibly can, do you feel like it also affected, and same with your clients, your relationship with your kids, because you were pouring from like that empty cup?

Or did you feel like you were able to keep it totally super mom in front of the kids, and then it was like behind the scenes, falling apart?

No, I mean, I think it was a combination of both, to be honest.

Like I think I could hold it together to a certain point.

But as a mom, if you are literally trying to do it all, whether you are staying at home, working from home, you work out in a job, like you're an entrepreneur, like whatever your job is, that's one part of you, right?

And then if you're married, even if you're not married, so if you're a single mom, like, okay, you might have that relationship with someone, then you have your kids.

More than likely, they're in some kind of activity, so then you've got to figure out, okay, how am I going to be the Uber driver, and how am I going to get them anywhere?

If you have more than one child, you have to figure out, okay, how am I going to clone myself to get my kids in two separate locations?

And then you also have to cook, so then you've got to be the chef on top of that, right?

So you have all of these different roles.

And so when I was trying to do all of those different roles by myself, and I was at home with my kids, like there would be times when I'd call my alter ego She-Hawk because we're Marvel's fans, but I would, like all of a sudden, like I would rage.

Like I had this vision of like, I'm never gonna cuss as a mom.

I'm gonna be so calm as a mom.

I mean, for goodness sake, like I have a behavioral background in teaching.

Like I got this.

Like I'm gonna be the ultimate mom here.

And ultimately it doesn't happen.

Like you can try your hardest and you can read the books and you can listen to the podcast and you can meditate, but there's gonna be something in you that gets triggered or your day.

And it probably has nothing to even do with your kids.

Maybe you just got in a fight with your spouse, but, or you're feeling overwhelmed, which is what happens.

And then you lash out.

So maybe you yell at your kids or maybe something happens, or you sit the plate down harder than you wanted to, or you say something or whatever happens.

Like there's gonna be those moments.

And that happened with me where I would lash out at my kids or I would raise my voice or I would yell.

And I didn't want to be like that.

For me, that happened when I went back to teaching the second time and my kids were older.

So they were both in elementary school.

And after school, they would walk over to me and I would just have had to be the perfect teacher for eight hours, right?

Can't yell at your students.

You can't say the wrong thing.

You literally, I feel like you have to be perfect and dealing with all of their behaviors and all of these different, and the people that you're dealing with, the other adults in the room and the admin.

And then my kids would walk over to me and I would be like almost like, then I would kind of all lash out, right?

Like all the things that I've been holding on all day would start to come out on my beautiful, amazing kids.

And I got to that point where I was like, for my mental health, like this situation isn't working anymore.

So I left teaching for the second time because I knew I can't handle this situation right now.

I'm not equipped to be a great mom and be a great teacher in this situation right now.

So I would love to say that I was like that perfect mom, and then I was at Supermom, but I wasn't.

And I don't think they're...

That's why I call it Drop the Supermom Facade, because there's no one out there getting it perfect.

Even the people that are the experts that you listen to, like everyone is practicing.

Like there is no rule book on how to do this perfectly.

So your kids are angelic, and their childhood is amazing, and you never mess up.

And like, it's just not possible because we're human, and we're living this human experience.

So I definitely had those moments, and I still do.

Like now I have teenagers.

And so this is a whole nother level for me of being a parent of a teenager, of two teenagers, and what I feel like, you know, to be completely honest, like for me, and you can like earmuff if you don't want to hear this since you're pregnant right now, but for me, I honestly feel like this teenage phase is the hardest for me, because it's almost like I'm cutting the cord again, because I was at home with my kids for so long, because I did everything with them, because like do travel baseball.

So I take them and I travel with them, and I do all these things, and we're so close, and now they're trying to figure out who they are.

They're trying to be like, wait, who am I?

And so to me, that is like so challenging, because I just want them to tell me everything, and I want them to cuddle with me.

I still want them to be those little boys, even though it's such a beautiful process right now.

Like to me right now is the hardest for me, that I'm trying to emotionally figure this out for me, how to be the best mom as a teenage mom, because I know they still need me, but it's just different.

It's in a different way.

Oh, that's so challenging.

Yeah.

So yeah, so there is no super mom.

Like there is, even though I thought I was one when my kids were younger, nope, it's not even possible.

So I always say like drop that super mom facade, because no one's doing it.

No one's excelling in that.

Yeah, I think Instagram really gives that picture perfect life look when, and I've talked to so many people who will even tell me, they're like, I post these pictures, I post these videos of my family, and I feel like a fraud, because it is not nearly as perfect as it seems.

Yeah, and so if I gave tips on like, say even that, like just simple tips on how to drop that super mom facade, like I've already shared, you don't have to do it all.

Second thing is asking for help and receiving it.

So making sure that you are asking for help, whether you have little kids, whether you have older kids, like whatever you're asking for help with, and this is from your spouse too.

Like that might sound so simple to say, but like if you have a spouse, if you're married or whatever that situation looks like, like make sure you're asking for help.

Like, cause they might not know, they might think you're just having a baby.

They don't, they can't really do anything.

Like the baby needs the mom, like breastfeeding, whatever.

Like you need help.

Whether it is, I need to go take a nap.

Like, can you please like make sure the baby's okay?

Or if it's, I need help, like giving baths.

I need help with dinner.

I need help, whatever it is, because so much falls on the mother's shoulders.

That is like that invisible load, right?

That we all carry.

No one's told us to do all these things.

But again, we think we have to do it all.

So ask for help, be able to receive it.

Those are big things.

Making sure you're taking time for yourself, no matter the age of your kids.

Like you're getting ready to have a baby, or even right now you're pregnant.

So making sure you are still taking time to get a bath, like taking time to read, taking time to enjoy this time, like with your little one.

I always loved being pregnant, because I was like, it's almost like a secret, right?

Nobody else knows, like if the baby's kicking right now, or I feel the feet, or there's movement.

I always thought it was like, it's like our little secret, even though everyone knows, because they could see it.

But, you know, just making sure you are still taking time for yourself now and in the future is huge.

Making sure you're finding joy.

So like that's gonna help in that feeling lost, is making sure you still have something for you.

It could be going out with your girlfriends.

It could be those nature walks.

You know what I mean?

It can be anything.

It could be a hobby.

I did roller derby for three years when I finally discovered, wait, I don't have anything for myself.

Roller skating makes me smile.

So I started doing that.

So making sure that you have those things that bring you joy and having that gratitude for your life and where you are right now, not wishing the time away, but finding those things that you can be grateful for all day are really some boundaries.

We can go into boundaries for like five hours, but making sure that you have boundaries for yourself and your family are just huge.

And that helps with dropping that super mom facade.

Those are some tips that I would just share that are, they're simple, but they're also the hardest to do, I feel like.

And I think too, when a mom kind of loses herself for a couple years, things change, right?

Like before you have a kid and after you have a kid, you're kind of a different person.

You evolve, things change.

How do you help moms maybe find if they don't know anymore, like, you're like, you know, maybe try a hobby.

And they're like, I don't know what I like.

I don't know what I want to do.

How do you help them explore that?

Yeah, one of the things that I did one year is when I started to feel super lost, and I was like, I don't, like if someone asked me, like, what do you like to do?

I'm like, I don't, I'm not sure.

Like, I couldn't really answer that, right?

And I think so many of us go through that, because again, we've dedicated ourselves to our family and our kids and, you know, taking care of our littles, because they do need us so much.

But then there comes that point when, you know, you start to think, what do I have for me?

What is, like, mine?

Like, my thing that I do that makes me smile?

So I always say, like, write a joy list.

Like, that's one of the things that, like, I love to do, write a list of things that bring you joy.

And it doesn't have to be things that, like, are super outrageous or that cost a lot of money, but it's like putting my favorite sweatpants on, like going out for a walk, like calling my girlfriend, like taking a bubble bath.

I love getting baths, so I love, love, love that.

But, but that's like a place where you can start, like super simple, is like remember things that bring you joy.

And a lot of the time it's things that were from your childhood.

A lot of the time, it's like, I used to love to paint, or I used to love to ride horses, or I used to love to dance.

And you just don't make that time anymore because, you know, you think that you don't have enough time in the day.

But I bet if you went and really looked at your day, there's probably a lot of time that you waste.

Now, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with scrolling.

We all love to do it.

And especially like laughter, you want laughter, you listen to podcasts like this.

But I bet there's a lot of time that you could have been doing something else.

You know, you could be multitasking, meaning I don't like multitasking because I don't believe you can focus on two things at the same time, but say your kids are at a practice and you're just waiting around, like you're in your car scrolling, like you could be going for a walk at that time.

If you're saying you don't have any time to exercise, like that could be a great time.

You could call a friend during that time.

You could walk with another parent, you know, around the baseball field, around the soccer field.

So there's things that you could be doing if you really look at that.

So I always love to look at that, but really going back to someone feeling lost, I have like a five steps that I love to do.

And so I'll go through them really quick.

I'll just kind of list what they are.

But the first one is really remember who you are.

So it is actually looking in the past, and remembering like the things that you've accomplished because so much time as women, we don't celebrate ourselves and even give ourselves credit for the incredible things that we've done.

So it's really looking back at what have you done like in your past and be literally just like showing up and being alive.

Like that's something.

That is something, just being here.

But remembering who you were in the past, remembering like I said before, those things that bring you joy, remembering all the things that light you up, remembering that dream, because I feel like inside of each of us, like we have something that we wanted to do.

Maybe when you were a little girl, maybe there was a dream job or you wanted to be a singer, you wanted to be in music, whatever that was, you wanted to be some kind of artist.

And so remembering that, because that little spark right there can really ignite something beautiful in you that maybe you haven't really thought about before.

Maybe you think you're too old to do that or do something new, but you're never too old.

So remember is the first step.

After you do that, you have to release old stories.

So I know we've been talking about old programming and things like that.

You've got to release those old things.

I'm not enough, I'm too old, I'm too young.

Like whatever, I'm not smart enough.

Like whatever that old story is, we work on releasing that.

After we release it, the next thing is rewriting.

So we're going to rewrite a story that you want for your life.

How you want to feel, how you want to act, how you want to love the people you want in your life.

Maybe it is a new business.

You rewrite that old story, that new story, which is super, super fun.

And then after you do that, you receive.

This is, I think, one of the hardest things for us as women is to receive the good coming into our life.

This is actually my word of the first quarter is receive.

So receiving all that abundance, receiving all of those things into your life, which I think, again, is really hard for us to do.

So that's kind of like the process of remembering who you are is kind of working through those steps.

And so if somebody's kind of listening now and they're feeling like super excited because they've heard all this great stuff, but also a little overwhelmed because we've talked about a lot, where do you recommend they start?

What is that like first step?

I really think it is.

It's I think you should journal, and I think you should remember the things that you used to love to do.

Because so much of reprogramming our brain and working on those old stories starts at our childhood.

So if you, because we're so innocent then, right?

Like we are just excited about life.

Like usually a lot of things haven't been programmed into our head yet.

We're just free.

We're free to be who we truly are.

Whether that's being loud, and then someone told you, oh, you're too loud, or you're not a good singer, or you sang, and then you just hold on to that, but you love to sing.

So really, if you just start journaling, and I get like goosebumps, it's like just start journaling.

Remember like those things, like remember those things that you used to love to do.

Like remember like how you used to feel, like where you felt safe.

Like write those things down and really start thinking about those, and maybe just add one little teeny tiny thing in back into your life.

Maybe you spend 10 minutes a day singing.

Maybe you put your favorite music on and you go dancing.

Maybe you go back out, you go outside because you realize how nature, it makes you feel so good and you don't go outside anymore because you're in an office working.

So I would say journaling and really looking back at like, what used to make you smile?

What brought you joy?

What could you do for hours and get lost in that?

That's a really good place to start.

And I love that you gave examples too that don't require leaving the house for hours because I know a lot of parents might feel like, I don't have that support that I can go do this thing outside of the house forever.

But I love that you gave ideas too for like what you can do around the house, inside the house while the kids are playing soccer, things of that nature.

Yeah, you have to really be, I mean, you really have to be smart with your time, but you also have to look at your time management, which isn't the easiest thing to do, but being a mom and having kids that are in school all day and then activities at night, like it's really smart and it's gonna help you so much, like feel less overwhelmed.

If you really look at your week and just do it week by week and say, okay, where do I have those pockets of time or where am I gonna create?

Because you'll never find them if you're not looking for them.

They're not just gonna magically appear, those pockets of time when you can do things for yourself, but when can I add those in?

When can I make sure that I'm taking that time for myself to do something for me?

Because that's gonna help me be a better mom, a better wife, a better whatever spouse, a better coworker, and just help you love yourself more, which is really the ultimate goal too.

Oh, I love that.

And somebody had recently recommended to me to do like a time audit too, where you write down like all exactly what you had done that day.

And really you do find like, there is more time in there than you thought.

There is some time in there that I spent decent amount of time scrolling.

I was like, I could have been doing something more meaningful.

Yeah, and I mean, come on, like guys, like let's be real.

Like you're gonna have pockets of your time when you just fool around.

Like you don't wanna take that away, but it's good to recognize that.

And you can set timers on your phone.

So if you are scrolling on social media too much, you can always check your phone and use your phone to your advantage, you know, and say, oh my gosh, I didn't realize that I would have been on my phone for eight hours today.

Now some of that could be work if you work and you do things from your phone, but like really be true and honest.

Like, let me actually look at this.

And if you want to make a change, you can make a change and do simple small things to do that for yourself.

Perfect.

Well, that is where I wanna leave our audience today.

You can do stuff for yourself.

Yeah.

But thank you so much for being here.

I know there's gonna be tons of people who wanna continue this conversation with you and go find you.

So where's the best place for them to go?

Yeah, I think, you know, I would say my website is awesome.

So it's just melissaclampitt.com.

That's got my social media handles.

That's got, if you wanna take this a little bit further, I have some free things on there that you can grab.

And then Instagram, just melissaclampitt.com.

I love to hang out over there too.

And you've got a big podcast too.

Oh yeah, thanks.

The Reawakened Mom.

I could list all the things.

You'll find that on my website too.

But yeah, my podcast is The Reawakened Mom, where I love to do solo episodes, but I also love to interview people just to talk about amazing things that they're doing.

Because I do believe that we are better together and not feel alone.

So I love to share what other women are doing that can help the mamas out there.

I know you're going to be on soon too, so that's exciting.

Yeah, that's, yes.

And I will link all of this in the show notes for everybody.

So you guys can go find Melissa, but thank you so much for being here.

Thank you for having me.